tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post1319342936919865979..comments2023-10-22T04:57:57.528-04:00Comments on HERD...: Weights and measures...and maybe a little rebellion from me. kathleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-19025586255023496182014-04-28T17:26:38.263-04:002014-04-28T17:26:38.263-04:00@ Michelle-Thanks...so good to hear about others g...@ Michelle-Thanks...so good to hear about others going through the same sort of thing! *sigh* the perfection thing is tough isn't it? Yes-we will get through it...here's to more and more decent days!kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-28307499676015144172014-04-28T16:41:46.528-04:002014-04-28T16:41:46.528-04:00I have no wise counsel for you. But I can tell yo...I have no wise counsel for you. But I can tell you that I get it. My daughter is an expert at looking like she has it all together until she gets home.<br /><br />On one hand, I'm thankful that she can successfully navigate school life. On the other hand I feel very frustrated that she has used up all her coping skills by the time she gets home from school. <br /><br />We are in the middle of our journey to discovering how to break down the need to be "perfect". Some days are decent and others are somewhat discouraging.<br /><br />Hang in there! We'll figure it out.<br />Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05797434987777482625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-62157504934201019812014-04-27T10:25:08.594-04:002014-04-27T10:25:08.594-04:00@bluesky-Yes, in some ways we have been sharing so...@bluesky-Yes, in some ways we have been sharing some of the same issues haven't we? Only kind of opposite-if only my girl WOULD fall apart at school! *sigh* We are in such a quandary as to what exactly to do. Aside from anxiety-they don't see her issues..Watching her fall apart at home-it is killing us to not be able to give her what she needs.If I offer her home schooling-she would jump on it in a second! I'm sending good thoughts that tomorrow goes smoothly for you both. <3<br /><br />@Kim-thanks for all your help-and having my back <3<br /><br />@Miss Doreen-Haha-yes, you would have snow days-while we would have "Ellen" and candy..Thanks <3<br /><br />@Farmwife-I do understand-I hope that things get smoother for you all<br /><br />@Sirenity-Thanks. <3<br /><br />@Jazzy-Exactly-boys are different! There is so much available research about this now..yet, girls are still measured against boys..*sigh* We do ask for help..we do. That is a whole other post isn't it..the asking for help-how very difficult that can be for so many reasons...but we do it anyway. Thanks <3 kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-38325842289400804512014-04-27T06:30:00.511-04:002014-04-27T06:30:00.511-04:00A difficult anxious time, for both you and your gi...A difficult anxious time, for both you and your girl. The effort it must take to hold it all together in school. I say this because I know it's the same for my boy, just presents differently and I don't get school refusals. His 'sense of humour' is the cause of a big problem that I can't write about :-(<br /><br />It's never ending isn't it? But we will get there, all of us. Because we ASK FOR HELP ;-) <br /><br />I do hope all works out and that the therapist can help find a way for her to cope in school....maybe she can be allowed some 'personal time-out time' in school?<br /><br />best of luck my friend :-) xxjazzygalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04069218745940412457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-32604678970207842932014-04-26T11:08:30.879-04:002014-04-26T11:08:30.879-04:00Huge hugs..its so hard to watch our kids suffer an...Huge hugs..its so hard to watch our kids suffer and to feel that we are not being heard-and worse being blamed. <br />i agree with you that girls on the spectrum are VERY different, typically, than boys. <br />Hugs and more hugs for you and yours. <br />Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457516405821614159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-7225109044108686652014-04-26T11:01:41.481-04:002014-04-26T11:01:41.481-04:00Mine's male, 14, Gr 9 and I'd like to say ...Mine's male, 14, Gr 9 and I'd like to say it improves with age... it doesn't.<br /><br />I've tried to explain it to the school and instead she tried to work on his relationship with his younger bro and one meeting lasted minutes and my eldest lied. He may get 2 more visits with the ASD teacher this year and I should never have put him in Resource class (social, survival skills, redo of some English, how to study, work in groups, etc but I'm not convinced it's what they said it would be) with the "locally developed" kids (not full disabled, but will not get a high school diploma and will go straight to work). He's trying to become "disabled" and it's not going over well at home. All his other courses are in the academic (Univ) stream and he is doing very well in them... mostly A's or high B's (english).<br /><br />Long ago I asked for help and got told they will come and tell me what I am doing wrong... no thanks.<br /><br />My dh just dragged him out with him this morning. He's in serious trouble at the moment.. thankfully, he ratted himself out last night before it became a true problem, but I've cut off his online interactions entirely for a month... and it was only miverse but he's not allowed to "chat" or have friends and he did "but I was only following..." gotta love ASD logic... sigh... after that I may let him lurk. Dang... the Mom was right, eh?? It was very minor in the grand scheme of things, thankfully, but the lesson needs to be learned.<br /><br />Except to keep pushing.. because the real world does suck royally and they have to learn to deal... and to not allow the behaviour at home... no being nice, no making excuses... I have no real help because narcissism + autism is a PIT....farmwifetwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02680758336779501712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-30674837499882604962014-04-26T10:14:10.722-04:002014-04-26T10:14:10.722-04:00A couple of things I know for sure. 1. I could nev...A couple of things I know for sure. 1. I could never home school a child. We would have too many snow days.<br />2. Your daughter will be fine because she has you for a Mom. Miss Doreennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-60650139316483599002014-04-26T09:53:06.274-04:002014-04-26T09:53:06.274-04:00Big hugs. Together you and your sweet girl will fi...Big hugs. Together you and your sweet girl will figure it out.Kim Wombleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15492455180502821052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-35422045802771121032014-04-26T08:54:33.086-04:002014-04-26T08:54:33.086-04:00So sorry, and I get this too, as my son would be s...So sorry, and I get this too, as my son would be similar in many ways, except he can't hold it together in school. But he is also due to go back on Monday and the anxiety is building to worrying levels. Having said that I could never home educate, I've started offering it as an option to my son! He keeps saying no though xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.com