tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post5800660791658477282..comments2023-10-22T04:57:57.528-04:00Comments on HERD...: Flapping in public...kathleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-5134665429974912832013-01-28T13:59:07.935-05:002013-01-28T13:59:07.935-05:00@bright side-it is a lovely positive place your bl...@bright side-it is a lovely positive place your blog is..:)<br /><br />@Farmwife-yeah-I never made too much of it until I read about people who don't stim-stimming purposly in public in order to raise awareness..horrifying. I would be very interested in hearing what the doctor says...Oscar has complained from time to time that his elbows and wrists ache-he really puts a lot into his stimming. I hope he isn't hurting himself.<br />@jazzygal-yes! I think having to sit still and follow directions all day long can be one of Oscars reasons for so much movement as well..I would LOVE for our kids to have cooking/food prep as part of their schooling. I think it could be great fun-AND maybe they could carry it over to home? But this incident-broke my heart in a million different ways..for a whole bunch of different reasons. My boy knows how to shuck corn-as I have had him do it at home to help...but sticking him in a "controlled environment"!!!Just the suggestion that he needs one-kills me...:(kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-30469694522779561722013-01-28T12:05:36.669-05:002013-01-28T12:05:36.669-05:00Brilliant post as ever Kathleen. Interesting thoug...Brilliant post as ever Kathleen. Interesting thoughts on 'autistic people are all brilliant' and I see where you're coming from. It IS good that someone stuck up for him though:-)<br /><br />My boy talks loudly, squeals a bit and goes on and on and on with silly stuff after school most days. He says it's because he's had to sit quietly and concentrate ALL day ;-)<br /><br />I too wondered about the shucking corn incident as I saw it as great OT. But I now totally see where you are coming from. How very dare they?! Our previous school had cooking one morning a week for kids with Dyspraxia and kids (like my boy) who could benefit. Now THAT was great OT AND a calming activity with social skills included :-)<br /><br />xx Jazzyjazzygalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04069218745940412457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-15034824301451798222013-01-27T16:02:39.520-05:002013-01-27T16:02:39.520-05:00All I can say about shucking corn is that it's...All I can say about shucking corn is that it's a decent skill to learn... takes in OT, SLP if he's visiting but school is not the place or time since the staff gets paid for that crap.<br /><br />As for the flapping in public... Up until Fri I would have said "not a big deal" but Thurs I read about who we were going to see at the Hand and Upper Limb clinic. I thought we were going to see an OT, get sent to PT and get a night brace. No, we're going to see the guys that fix the nerves in your hands at the children's hospital. Yesterday my girlfriend had her Dh (nephrologist) translate the website and explain some of that info. Today I realized that not only are those 2 fingers fu....ed on my kid's left hand he has very little movement at all in any of his fingers. Damage, that not only could be caused by handwringing but also flapping.<br /><br />I'm now dreading tomorrow. Not just b/c I have to drive an hour one way in freezing rain... but also if I'm going to get told that flapping is not better than letting him wring his fingers. If I discover that Kim's told me I can write a post on the ABD about it.farmwifetwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02680758336779501712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-35218429691857349562013-01-27T12:07:44.531-05:002013-01-27T12:07:44.531-05:00Yes, now it makes more sense to me.... so much for...Yes, now it makes more sense to me.... so much for the teacher saying it was for social skills, when no one was actually talking to each other and there was no engagement!!! Thanks for elaborating further, I appreciate it. Thanks also for loving my blog! :-)Bright Side of Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08025195022971411268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-36624092147061252922013-01-27T09:07:40.331-05:002013-01-27T09:07:40.331-05:00@Bluesky-Thanks ..it is nice to know that I am not...@Bluesky-Thanks ..it is nice to know that I am not the only one trying to figure this out..:)kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-21351358844621350402013-01-27T09:06:04.969-05:002013-01-27T09:06:04.969-05:00@ Donna- thanks..my kids love you too..AND Becky h...@ Donna- thanks..my kids love you too..AND Becky had YOU-which is why she has had a life-a good life..she has a job and a family...those things would not have happened if you did not advocate for her when she was too little to do it for herself..:)<br />@ Brightside-no worries-I love your blog..and judgmental would NEVER be a word that I associated with you! I probably just wasn't clear enough..Last year Oscar attended regular classes(different school-he moved up this year) This year he was put in the spec. ed room full time..(this was not the plan we had all agreed on-it has changed after this incident) Yes, shucking corn was menial.. What skill is he learning? The few kids involved-are all like Oscar. Oscar said no one was talking. He didn't like doing it either. The idea that my son-who is capable of doing school work was made to do this instead of science class..what does that say to him? Calling it a "controlled environment"..Again-why does my son need a controlled environment? He hasn't committed a crime. He has participated in main stream education for 5 years before..he is a well behaved all around good guy. Hope this made more sense..:)kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648854807234137885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-61961025140715164372013-01-27T03:10:55.075-05:002013-01-27T03:10:55.075-05:00So ad for you and for Oscar. But I can also relate...So ad for you and for Oscar. But I can also relate to how difficult it is being s mum and trying to decide whether to let your kids with special needs be themselves or whether to try and change some of their behaviours so that it is more socially acceptable. And I don't have any answers either xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-86131789629103837092013-01-27T00:40:01.479-05:002013-01-27T00:40:01.479-05:00This was such a interesting post to read. I am not...This was such a interesting post to read. I am not sure in what way you felt offended that Oscar was helping the staff? Do you feel that the job was menial? I guess it all depends on the approach the teacher took... if she was using the experience to facilitate social engagement. Oh, I don't know.... I would rather chat about this face to face rather than leave a comment on your blog! :-). My comment is not in judgement but just made out of curiosity. xxBright Side of Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08025195022971411268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8508619860116485212.post-89380510661579771902013-01-26T21:34:33.430-05:002013-01-26T21:34:33.430-05:00As usual my dear friend this is brilliant! You can...As usual my dear friend this is brilliant! You can certainly open people's eyes. It makes me want to run right up to Oscar hug him and tell him he's just wonderful. All of your children are wonderful. You are so right. There is no respect for people with disabilities. My Becky lives it every day. I wish we had an advocate like you when she was in school. Keep up the good work Mama.Donnanoreply@blogger.com